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Sociopaths Retaliate With a Vengeance When Exposed

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"What is the one thing a sociopath does not want other people to know? The truth. More specifically, sociopaths do not want the truth about them to be known as they are insecure, malicious, and devious people. Beyond being embarrassed by the truth of their behaviors and thoughts, they have a deathly fear of being exposed and rejected. That’s in large part because they use lies, manipulations, and distortions to control other people and get what they want. If others were to know about their true nature, they...would lose the support networks of malicious minions they control and incite to abuse other people. Therefore sociopaths have a strong motivation to attack, discredit, harass, and ruin anybody who presents arguments and facts that might tend to raise questions and doubts about their behaviors and their false statements."

FROM: http://angiemedia.com/2010/11/12/sociopaths-in-our-midst-hate-the-truth-and-its-advocates/#.UROVROi1mHk

 

Sociopaths Experts At Blaming Others, Greatly Fear Being Blamed

"They may realize that blaming is how they control others to harm the targets they viciously attack, often family members or former love interests."

"Sociopaths may be especially cognizant of the risk that people whom they have used to abuse others might even turn against them, especially those who might be greatly angered by how they were manipulated into participating in destructive and harmful activities against others. People like to blame others."

"Sociopathic abusers often engage in distortion campaigns to control and manipulate others to prejudice them into having false beliefs about the victim. By the time the victim of the campaign is aware of it, he or she may have been routinely trashed and lied about for several years to the point that anything he or she says or does will somehow be interpreted as evidence of them being the problem."

"Many of the sociopaths recruit others to help them, typically using lies, distortions, and other people’s own experiences to convince them that they should help ruin another person’s life. Bill Eddy calls them “negative advocates” in many of his writings. I’ve often called them the “minions” of the sociopath. Some of these minions later realize that they were used to harm innocent people and end up feeling very bad about their own actions."

FROM: http://angiemedia.com/2010/11/12/sociopaths-in-our-midst-hate-the-truth-and-its-advocates/#.UROVROi1mHk

"If you have been in a relationship with a psychopathic personality -
•    if you seek to expose them, bear in mind they are likely to respond with vitriolic rage, threats, vicious and hurtful communication, or attempts to discredit you and smear your reputation

•    don’t beat yourself up about not recognising the signs earlier; just act as soon as you do
•    seek therapy as soon as possible; the trauma of these encounters can be long-lasting and profound
•    if possible, warn others of your experience
•    bear in mind he will be doing his best to cast you as irrational or downright crazy"
http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/12/26/internet-predators-the-cyberpath-and-cyberstalking/

"After the victim ends a relationship with a psychopath, this behavior is likely to escalate into downright stalking. This happens for the reasons I have explained in previous articles:

-- psychopaths, being control-driven, want to WIN. To them, winning means catching their targets into their spider’s nets and destroying them

-- psychopaths, being control-driven, want to exact vengeance and intimidate those who no longer worship them, want them, or obey them blindly."

Must Read: “Confessions of a Sociopath”

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More than one friend sent me this article from the May 13, 2013 issue of Psychology Today. It may be shocking to many, but to those of us whose lives were once shattered by sociopaths, it’s all too familiar.

The article was written by “M.E. Thomas” who claims to be a BYU-educated (and successful) law professor and Sunday school teacher who is “quite charming and has a host of family and friends.” I wonder about that.  At least she admits how much she lies. In the beginning of the article, she claims she wasn’t the victim of child abuse, but later in the article describes being the middle child in a family with a violent father.  Read More

The Cyberpath Retaliates With Smear Campaigns

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When their targets no longer idolize them or fulfill their demands, psychopaths often retaliate. They can’t tolerate when anyone bursts the artificial bubble of their complete and utter narcissism.  Psychopaths are bullies. They often resort to intimidation tactics, such as stalking and cyberstalking, smear campaigns and various other machinations. Some former victims feel genuinely terrorized by them and live in a state of fear or even paranoia.

The internet offers fertile ground for psychopaths, who are constantly on the prowl for potential new victims while continuing to intimidate and harass their previous targets, sometimes years after the relationship is over. Psychopaths never experience true emotional bonding with anyone; however they sometimes experience intense attachments to certain targets.

Just as they take perverse pleasure in hurting those close to them, they also take perverse pleasure in harassing previous targets from afar.

This is easy to do with relative anonymity. New email addresses are easy to get; while anyone with minimal computer skills knows how to reroute IP addresses. While even rerouted IP addresses can be identified by the authorities, often it’s more trouble than it’s worth.

From: http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/12/26/internet-predators-the-cyberpath-and-cyberstalking/

Dangerous Mind Games: How Psychopaths Manipulate and Deceive

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Deception constitutes a very entertaining game for psychopaths. They use one victim to lie to another. They use both victims to lie to a third. They spin their web of mind-control upon all those around them. They encourage antagonisms or place distance among the people they deceive, so that they won’t compare notes and discover the lies. Often they blend in aspects of the truth with the lies, to focus on that small grain of truth if they’re caught.

The bottom line remains that psychopaths are malicious sophists. It really doesn’t matter how often they lie or how often they tell the truth. Psychopaths use both truth and lies instrumentally, to persuade others to accept their false and self-serving version of reality and to get them under their control. For this reason, it’s pointless to try to sort out the truth from the lies. As M. L. Gallagher, a contributor to the website lovefraud.com has eloquently remarked, psychopaths themselves are the lie.

FROM:  http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/09/13/dangerous-mind-games-how-psychopaths-manipulate-and-deceive/

How Do Psychopaths Choose and Manipulate Their Victims

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“Those with psychopathic features often seem to have an uncanny ability to home into basic human vulnerabilities.  This often puts them in unique positions, where they are able to gain the upper hand.  Uninhibited by conscience, they initially assess the utility of those around them freely and equally.”

They then tend to narrow their choices to those they find unusually trusting or vulnerable.

“Sometimes, simply having normal personality traits qualifies an individual as vulnerable.  Some psychopaths are predatory in nature and can quickly evaluate who might be willing and able to help them achieve what they are looking to accomplish.  They can identify a potential victim’s ‘Achilles Heel’ and capitalize on it.”

Individuals who are openly trusting or generally seek to find the good in others are more apt to find themselves targeted than those who tend to challenge others to “prove” themselves.  However, most people tend to attempt to see the good in others.”

“As a result, this natural inclination to respect and trust often leads people to rationalize or minimize the odd or unusual behavior that does occur in exchanges with psychopathic individuals.  This makes almost everyone fair game.”

“At this point, an individual who is being targeted is usually unaware of the psychopath’s true intentions.  In addition to any possible vulnerabilities potential victims may have that can  make them more receptive to their advances, psychopaths also look for those who will invest in the relationship to deepen the connections and perceived obligations to the psychopath.”

“It may seem that victims are weak, but this is not the case.  Normal human vulnerability should not be confused with weakness.”

“Anyone has the potential to be targeted.  Psychopathic individuals do not appear to care whom or what they use or ultimately destroy.”

“It is important to remember that some psychopaths appear to easily become whatever it is their potential victim wants them to be, morphing into ideal mates, business partners, or  friends.”

“Some of them seem to choose their victims based on a combination of opportunity and their perceived ability to manipulate the targeted individuals.”

“While it is likely that no one is immune from victimization,

some may be better candidates for victimization than others,

often simply by being decent, trusting people.”

From: http://aftermath-surviving-psychopathy.org/index.php/2011/12/09/frequently-asked-questions/

Hard to See Him for What He is – Even Psychologists Are Fooled

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“Victims are harmed psychologically, emotionally, physically, financially, and socially.  The devastation can be far reaching.”

“A psychologist, in writing a psychopath’s evaluation described, how difficult it is to comprehend and reconcile the reality of the psychopath with his positive persona.”

 

“It is rare that victims actually recognize what is happening to them until it is too late.  Because of this, many victims never fully understand the full complexity of the situation.  Frequently, they are so entangled in the web of confusion the psychopath has managed to spin, that seeing the psychopath for what he or she is, rather than how he or she portrays himself, may be quite difficult.”

“It is not unusual for the victims of psychopaths to question their sanity and self worth.  This is often exacerbated by the psychopathic individual looking the victim in the eye and denying that events they both experienced together happened.”

“It is likely that the psychopath has spent so much time manipulating the victim’s reality that the victim cannot always distinguish fact from fiction.”

“The psychologist reported that, following an evaluation of a parent with psychopathic features, she had had difficulty reconciling the positive persona superficially presented by the psychopath with the contradictory facts she had gathered during the forensic evaluation.”

From http://aftermath-surviving-psychopathy.org/index.php/2011/02/24/the-aftermath-of-psychopathy-as-experienced-by-romantic-partners-family-members-and-other-victims/

 

Hiding Real Identity to Lure Prey

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"Many psychopaths are predators who very skillfully fool others by hiding their true identity in order to lure prey. Victims are manipulated and often left doubting their own sanity and reality. Once the victim is emotionally attached, the psychopath may stop acting, and show his or her true nature. This often leaves victims feeling very lost or confused."

From: http://bit.ly/13y8X4y

Affinity fraud: do psychopaths target specific groups of people?

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Written by Linda on 19 December 2011

"Individuals with psychopathic traits are often attracted to affinity groups – religious, political or social groups of people who share common values, beliefs or interests.  The collective trust that members of these groups have in one another and their common belief system provides a perfect cover for the person with psychopathy.  The psychopath has an ability to accurately mimic the group’s beliefs or values while in the presence of its members.  As a result, trust is easily gained and the true motives of the psychopath are less likely to be discovered.

Their true motives may include, but are not limited to, financial support (including investment fraud), establishing personal credibility, access to vulnerable individuals who can meet their sexual needs, power and control in volunteer or paid leadership roles, or whatever may meet their needs at the present time.  Those who are most adept at perpetrating affinity fraud are psychopaths who gain entry into the group by developing an acquaintance with a member who then introduces the psychopath as “one of us.”  The result is a “fox in the henhouse.”

From http://aftermath-surviving-psychopathy.org/index.php/2011/12/19/affinity-fraud-do-psychopaths-target-specific-groups-of-people/

Being the Target of a Psychopath

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"Psychopaths view people as little more than objects to be used for their own gratification," explains Dr. Hare. "The weak and the vulnerable--whom they mock, rather than pity--are favorite targets. This helps to explain the reports of people being targeted by the Hidden Evil for no particular reason, other than being decent. A psychopathic program will target such people."

From: http://www.thehiddenevil.com/psychopathy.asp

Psychopaths Make Good First Impression

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“More often than not,” says Dr. Cleckley, “the typical psychopath will seem particularly agreeable and make a distinctly positive impression when he is first encountered. Alert and friendly in his attitude, he is easy to talk with and seems to have a good many genuine interests. There is nothing at all odd or queer about him, and in every respect he tends to embody the concept of a well-adjusted, happy person.”

You Are Not to Blame

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"You are not to blame. Whatever the reasons for being involved with a psychopath, it is important that you not accept blame for his or her attitudes and behavior. Psychopaths play by the same rules - their rules - with everyone."

"Be aware of who the victim is. Psychopaths often give the impression that it is they who are suffering and that the victims are to blame for their misery."

"Recognize that you are not alone. Most psychopaths have lots of victims. It is certain that a psychopath who is causing you grief is also causing grief to others."

"Be careful about power struggles. Keep in mind that psychopaths have a strong need for psychological and physical control over others. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t stand up for your rights, but it will probably be difficult to do so without risking serious emotional or physical trauma."

FROM http://aftermath-surviving-psychopathy.org/index.php/2011/02/24/this-charming-psychopath-how-to-spot-social-predators-before-they-attack/

Psychopaths Need Absolute Power and to Cause Pain

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"Remember, a need for absolute power over others is a core trait of the psychopath. Goal-oriented deceitfulness, superficial charm, an outward friendly appearance, and having no remorse, are other traits which will allow them to achieve their goals...And because deceitfulness is a core psychopathic trait, this will probably be done by creating a humanitarian front organization."

THIS WILL PROBABLY BE DONE BY CREATING A HUMANITARIAN FRONT ORGANIZATION

"But, if you can, try to imagine someone who seeks power for no reason other than to have power, or someone who deceives just to experience the delight of having done so.

Or someone who tortures another person physically or emotionally for the enjoyment of watching them suffer.

Imagine someone doing these things, and not losing a moment of sleep at night (zero remorse). And add to all this, the ability to conceal themselves from an extremely naive public. Psychopaths are essentially aliens that look human. Probably one of the best skills to learn is how to detect and avoid a psychopath."

From: www.thehiddenevil.com/psychopathy.asp

 

 

Most People Can’t Bring Themselves to Understand the Mind-set of a Psychopath

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“Some researchers agree that the traits exhibited by these people produce a division stronger than age, race, and religion, which places them in a new category of people. In other words, these people are almost not human as we know it. The word antisocial does not describe someone who prefers to sit at home rather than attend gatherings. More accurately it means antihuman. Most people can’t bring themselves to understand the mind-set of a psychopath.”

Dr. Hare explained, “Imagining the world as the psychopath experiences it is close to impossible.”

In his book, Political Ponerology: A Science on the Nature of Evil Adjusted for Political Purposes, Dr. Andrew M. Lobaczewski wrote, “The pathocratic world, the world of pathological egotism and terror, is so difficult to understand for people raised outside the scope of this phenomenon that they often manifest childlike naivete, even if they have studied psychopathology and are psychologists by profession.”

Professor Marrs commented, “Yet, in public, they impress us as men who are likeable, intelligent, refined, fair-minded, tolerant, thoughtful, kind, and gentile men who sincerely care about such matters as the environment, the plight of the hungry and starving overseas, the jobless, and the poverty-stricken. Moreover, they often are recognized as leaders in the legitimate quest for world peace and tranquility.”

He continued, “Many are active in church work and charitable organizations. Others give freely to good causes.” Recognizing this facade, he added, “No one would suspect for a moment what actually goes on in the deep, dark recesses of their diabolical minds.”

It’s very difficult to describe with words an event that must be experienced in order to understand. The event I’m referring to is the observation of the psychopath or psychopathic system in its true form, after the mask has been removed. It can be described as something deeply horrific. This is a gut-wrenching experience for a normal person, and can cause severe trauma, especially if they can’t escape it.

Wikipedia, the online encyclopedia, states that, “any emotions which the primary psychopath exhibits are the fruits of watching and mimicking other people’s emotions.” They are adept at, “using their charm and chameleon-like abilities to cut a wide swath through society and leaving a wake of ruined lives behind them,” Dr. Hare warns.

PSYCHOPATHS TARGET THE MOST MORALLY EVOLVED PEOPLE

“The pathological factor also helps to clarify why people who are, arguably, more spiritually and morally evolved than the masses, are being identified and targeted.

According to Dr. Lobaczewski, these types of individuals are the first to be targeted in regimes controlled by psychopaths.

Dr. Meloy explained that the psychopath’s “perception of others’ pleasures arouses only envy and greed in themselves.” And that they receive, “gratification of sadistic impulses through intentional infliction of emotional or physical pain upon others.”

FROM http://www.thehiddenevil.com/psychopathy.asp

 

Protection from Psychopaths

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"Understand Their Goals – What They Want and Don't Let Them Win – Power, control, superiority; they seek to hurt, humiliate & subjugate.

Don't Give Them Satisfaction – showing hurt, pain, distress just feeds their sickness. They want to hurt you, the more hysterical you get, the more they enjoy it. Reacting reinforces their drive to do more. Be unemotional and factual."

From: http://www.happinessandevil.com/protection-from-psychopaths.html

Psychopaths Inflict Pain on Others for Enjoyment

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"The need for absolute power over others and the wish to inflict pain for the enjoyment of watching others suffer, are almost never apparent to the casual observer. The reason for this is that another core trait of the psychopath is disguise. So unfortunately, these individuals usually mask themselves as good-natured people. If they have tremendous wealth, you can bet that they'll create charitable organizations as part of their mask."

From: http://www.thehiddenevil.com/psychopathy.asp

Hard for People to Believe the Stories

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"Again, victims usually do not understand what is occurring until it is too late.  The psychopath may have already launched smear campaigns, taken unfounded legal action, and manipulated those the victim cares about, simply for sport.  Once the victims begin sharing their stories with others, the people to whom they tell these stories, often cannot believe what they are hearing.  It is common for others to be in disbelief, either because they perceive the victim as an unlikely candidate for targeting or abuse, or because the stories can seem so inherently unlikely that it may be difficult, at first, to believe they are true."

SOURCE: http://aftermath-surviving-psychopathy.org/index.php/2011/12/09/frequently-asked-questions/

Robert Hare’s Checklist of Psychopathy Symptoms

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1. GLIB AND SUPERFICIAL CHARM — the tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming, slick, and verbally facile. Psychopathic charm is not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. A psychopath never gets tongue-tied. He can also be a great listener, to simulate empathy while zeroing in on his targets’ dreams and vulnerabilities, to be able to manipulate them better.

2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH — a grossly inflated view of one’s abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. Psychopaths are arrogant people who believe they are superior human beings.

3. NEED FOR STIMULATION or PRONENESS TO BOREDOM — an excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Psychopaths often have a low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because they get bored easily. They fail to work at the same job for any length of time, for example, or to finish tasks that they consider dull or routine.

4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING — can be moderate or high; in moderate form, they will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever; in extreme form, they will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative and dishonest.

5. CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS: the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one’s victims.

6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT:  a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted and unempathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one’s victims.

7. SHALLOW AFFECT:  emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness and superficial warmth.

8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY:  a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.

9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE: an intentional, manipulative, selfis, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline and the inability to carry through one’s responsibilities.

10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS:  expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.

11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR: a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of numerous, multiple relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity (rape) or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits and conquests.

12. EARLY BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS: a variety of behaviors prior to age 13, including lying, theft, cheating, vandalism, bullying, sexual activity, fire-setting, glue-sniffing, alcohol use and running away from home.

13. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS: an inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.

14. IMPULSIVITY: the occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations and momentary urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic and reckless.

15. IRRESPONSIBILITY: repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.

16. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS: a failure to accept responsibility for one’s actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.

17. MANY SHORT-TERM RELATIONSHIPS: a lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including in marital and familial bonds.

18. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY: behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.

19. REVOCATION OF CONDITION RELEASE: a revocation of probation or other conditional release due to technical violations, such as carelessness, low deliberation or failing to appear.

20. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY: a diversity of types of criminal offenses, regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them; taking great pride at getting away with crimes or wrongdoings.

 

These lists have been compiled by angelfire, on the link below:

Psychopaths use Religion as a Ruse

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"Individuals often turn to their religious communities for support during stressful times, when they may be feeling spiritually and emotionally weakened.  Psychopaths often take advantage of this situation and use religion as a ruse to prey on people.  Singles groups, especially at more affluent churches, are often targeted."Source: http://bit.ly/A7G1zM